Unravel the complexities of love as a lady in her late 20s shares her emotional rollercoaster, grappling with attraction, heartbreak, and the lingering pain of unrequited love.
Journey of love, heartache, and self-discovery
I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend, but it’s not my fault. Before you judge me, read my story. I am a woman in my late 20s—pretty, funny, lovable, and a good Christian. However, the major problem I have faced since I started dating is the type of guys I am attracted to. They are usually cool but unserious, have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable, and just want physical intimacy.
I am very emotional and tend to show my feelings towards a guy too soon. Additionally, I have never had a relationship that lasted more than six months. During my four years in university, I didn’t have any relationships, not because I didn’t want to, but guys weren’t showing interest. Despite my looks, my friends thought I should have numerous admirers, but the opposite was true.
After school, the few relationships I attempted turned sour. One involved my former fellowship pastor, who, despite being old enough for marriage, was only interested in physical intimacy. Disappointed, I cut ties with him. A year later, I met another guy in 2022, but our relationship didn’t last due to differences and his lack of commitment. It took me a long time to get over him.
Fast forward to this year, I met a funny and intelligent guy on a social networking site. He seemed perfect, and we had a strong connection. However, when I discovered he was in a relationship, it was hard to turn back. Despite suspecting he only wanted physical intimacy, we couldn’t resist each other.
After being intimate, he traveled and started communicating less. He claimed his girlfriend was in Nigeria, but I wasn’t convinced. The major fallout occurred when he didn’t wish me on my birthday until a day later. In frustration, I sent him a nasty message accusing him of only wanting my body. He got angry, and although I apologized immediately, he stopped responding.
Since then, I haven’t been myself, crying almost every day for the past two months and struggling to concentrate at work. When he returned, I went to apologize at his house unannounced, but he got angrier, stating that he had warned me not to visit without informing him. He forgave me but mentioned trust issues with people who doubt him. The worst part is he knows I love him and seems to be intentionally hurting me.
I can’t get him out of my mind, thinking about him every day. I am in a dilemma and don’t understand what is going on. I sent him messages yesterday, but he read them without replying. I uninstalled WhatsApp to prevent further contact. At this point, I am fed up, feeling helpless in the face of love’s challenges. I need help.
This poignant tale is not just hers; it resonates with countless hearts entangled in the web of love’s complexities. Will she find solace, or will love’s unpredictable course continue to shape her destiny?