Now I’m an engaged, relatively stable 30-year-old man. But I wasn’t as lucky as I am now, and it was a long, sometimes miserable road to get here.
Key points
First of all, I couldn’t date in high school. In fact, I never took a date to my homecoming or graduation parties. not because I didn’t try. I’ve been rejected, left out, and definitely told “no.” I was stout and awkward, and my emotions were strong.
Rather than falling in love, I fell in love. This situation got better after I went to college. Girls started showing interest in me! But my 20-year-old “skills” about love and sex were abysmal. Sometimes I want to go back in time and grab the old me and shake it. Make up your mind!
Looking back, I wish I had known some big facts then.
1. Putting mine into her does not imply physical contact.
Sex has been so much better since I learned to relax a little and enjoy the moment. The sights, sounds, and smells (yes, smells) all create a unique and unforgettable experience.
2. Being in love doesn’t mean you’ve settled for that person.
In some early relationships, I often made emotional compromises even though I was unhappy. because I have no dating experience. After a while of dating, people say, “It’s not good” or “This is how other people’s relationships are, right?” I learned that I don’t have to feel the same way.
3. Use the word “love” carefully.
I shouldn’t have said that if I had no integrity. I remember using the word love because we both longed to experience something other than loneliness. We both lied to each other. Worse, they both have unreasonable expectations of each other, but they both know that things will never work out for each other.
4. Regardless of what the other person says, condoms are a must, not an “option.”
A 19-year-old couple’s fears that they might become pregnant are overwhelming. There are also sexually transmitted diseases, like gonorrhea.
5. You should be relaxed.
Dating in my early twenties was stressful. I put all kinds of stress and urgency on what should be fun, comfortable, and slow. I always have a full swing mentally, and I hit a lot. There were many women who were interested in me to some extent but fell out of love with me. It deserves it. because my feelings are so intense and I regret it now. John Cusack said in the movie “Can Love Be Recalled,” “Only certain temperamental people are afraid to spend the rest of their lives alone at the age of 26.” “We are those people,” he said. I think about that line often.
6. Quit texting obsessively.
I get text messages from women saying, “Don’t text me again.”
7. Don’t continue dating out of fear.
I kept relationships that I should have given up in the early days because of the false fear of being alone. This will make your friends, family, and everyone you both know very miserable. And what did I sacrifice my happiness and my sense of security for? It’s not worth it, and ending the relationship is always better than I feared.
8. Odd positions make sex weird.
There are several reasons for using common locations. Once, while trying to have sex with my legs at all different angles in the shower, my hand stuck to a tile in the wall. If you call the apartment management office, it is like that.
9. The clitoris is there. Find out
If I had known this, there would have been at least two sexually satisfied women on earth. If you’re not sure, do a Google search.
